When you’re single, you kind of miss having someone spoiling you. Thoughtful gestures, little treats… right? And yet the couples I know tell me that while they do spoil each other every now and then, I realised that as a singleton, I spoil myself FAR more often than they do.
Perhaps it’s that my money and my time are my own, and I can choose to spend both as I please. I don’t have to justify impulse buys or little luxuries to anyone. And I don’t have to fit into someone else’s calendar (or check with them before I commit to engagements).
I believe it’s important for everyone to treat themselves – regularly too, not once in a blue moon. We’re not talking about overindulgence here, just little things. Here are some of the ways that I spoil myself…:
- Chocolate. I love good chocolate. So if I see a new Lindt flavour, I try it. I’ve nearly always got chocolate in the house. I rarely pig out on it, but I do probably have some every day.
- Sleep. I recently bought a mattress topper for my bed and now it’s even harder to get up in the mornings – so luxurious and cosy! I allow myself to sleep late on weekends if the mood takes me. Guilt-free.
- Books. I can spend ages in bookstores. Taking home a few new books and spending an afternoon on my sofa absorbed in a ficitious world is heavenly.
- Coffee. I live a good half-hour drive from a decent take-away coffee place, so when I am near one, I treat myself. A good latte once a month is a simple pleasure.
- Costume jewellery. I have a thing for rings and while the real thing is out of my league at the moment, I can’t resist something big and sparkly on my finger. My other jewellery tends to be understated, so these are a little affordable extravagance. Surfing the Tiffany website is another little indulgence
- Alone time. If I’m around people for too long (days), I start getting antsy and need to have time time out by myself. I love my friends and family, but do need my space too. Whether I have a nap, wander around the shops, walk on the beach, clean my house or spend that afternoon reading on my sofa, I need time on my own to re-energise.
- Cooking/baking. I find cooking relaxing and creative – but it’s best done solo. Too many cooks, right? A big cupcake fan, I’ll often experiment with new flavours and then invite friends and family round to be my guinea pigs
How do you spoil yourself?
Great post and SO true! I am planning on getting a mani/pedi tomorrow and I NEVER do that! We deserve to treat ourselves!
Lindt chocolate is one of mine too. Also sleep.
I own thousands of books. They are everywhere. I can’t sleep without reading something first.
I make my own coffee, and drink it every day. 100% arabica. Australian grown (Queensland).
I love rings too, but I like them to be big. As I have very slim fingers, Australian jewellers don’t want to reduce them to my size because it is too much trouble. If I could afford to buy very expensive ones, I’m sure that they would be more co-operative.
I need to be alone most of the time. Other people are too noisy and stressed. They do things too quickly, which makes them make a lot of noise in the process. I need a lot of silence. PTSD.
I used to cook five-course meals for five people every day. Now that I’m on my own (at last!) I just do the minimum. But it has to be tasty, and not pre-prepared. Unless I’m the one who has prepared it. Industrial stuff is full of salt, sugar and chemicals. Yuck!
Yes, I spoil myself all the time too. Especially when I’m trying to make (healthy/good) changes in my life, I’ll make purchases to reward myself. I have been cooking a lot for myself recently, and so I finally switched from nonstick cookware to stainless steel — not too extravagant, but a big switch considering I’ve used these old pots and pans since college! Plus these new dishes are a lot prettier
– Lisa
I sleep and HAVE to have my alone time too.
I can’t be around others for too long as I start to get irritated.
I can’t help it when I am at work, but I need to retreat from the society.
I like going shopping (ALONE, I hate shopping with friends) or go get coffee and just be by myself.
So cool to hear that y’all treat yourselves so well
I wonder if the marrieds are as kind to themselves…?
I like cupcakes. I treat myself to one at least once a week.
@simom Mmmm, cupcakes
Little mouthfuls of heaven!
sounds good, but I’m 36 and have watched every idiot friend of mine get all the ladies, get married, etc and same ole me is stll alone. Has to be balance somewhere.
Well I’ been married for ten years and there is allot of up’s and really deep downs. I have 2 kids one is 7 and the other one is 1 year old, and it’s so hard to spoil my self I don’t even buy anything for my self anymore am always stressing because I need to make sure that they have everything they need but what about me. I need more than everybody in my house. I remember when I was single and no kids I always had the trunk of my car with all this news bags of new clothing and boxes of new shoes. but that is history! OMG so hard so enjoy your free time as mush as you can you will miss it once you are get on my shoes!