Please tell me someone else is with me on this.
I think baby animals are just gorgeous. Puppies with fat little tummies, tripping over their oversized paws. Kittens with their you’ll-grow-into-them-one-day ears and squeaky mews. Baby bunnies, newborn foals, fuzzy bear cubs – who doesn’t squee a little when they see them?
So why don’t I feel the same way about baby humans? Why don’t Anne Geddes photos* have the same effect on me? Is it the lack of fur? Is it the constant crying? Inability to sleep through the night? Is it – on a deeper level – their utter helplessness? I can see why people DO find babies cute – in the same way I can appreciate that Brad Pitt is good-looking, although I don’t fancy him myself. I must be missing a gene somewhere. Give me a kitten any day…
*Note how often Anne dresses babies up as… baby animals! Bunny ears, anyone?
Oh god tell me about it! Maybe it is the unconscious understanding of all the work and sleepless nights they entail!
One of my friends who became a father a few years back and wasn’t really interested in kids said, “Yeah it’s just a crying screaming pooing blob. What fun is that?”. A few years later he said, “It’s not so bad now, he is old enough for me to try and teach him programming, so it’s a bit more fun now!”
Personally I’m not interested in having kids, perhaps a bit selfish (although why do we have to have kids? Not as if there is a shortage of people huh?). I wouldn’t mind a kid if it was only a few hours a day where I could em-part my wisdom on them!
I have been told it is different when it is a child of your own, but I think that may be a case of well you are in the shit now, deal with it. After all there is no return before 28 days clause; I’d suspect your wife wouldn’t be happy with their husband trying to return the product
I’m with you. And that doesn’t make me selfish or rotten. I’m more of a ‘roll my eyes at yet ANOTHER profile picture of the new baby’ kind of gal than an ‘ooh cute baby’ person.
I’m sure it will be different if it were my own child, but I’m with Mark-there are enough babies and people in this world. I don’t want to bring in another possibly ugly, definitely messy human into this already messy world right now. That is the *least* selfish thing we singletons can do!
First, not all babies are cute. Period.
Second, you’re not missing anything, girl. I often get in the mood where I look at a baby and can look RIGHT past it, and not even have an urge or an ounce of thought to go “awwww” because you know what? It’s not mine, I don;t care, and I DON’T HAVE TO.
I’ve never been a gushing-over-babies person. I’ve had three of my own, and have become quite attached to them. Of course, the youngest will be forty next month. I did have a “moment” when I saw one of my grandchildren (I won’t say which one, because I have five). But that was more of a recognition-of-my-own-flesh-and-blood moment, than a “gooey” one.
Other people’s babies can be very beautiful, just like adults. (I have sometimes been caught, very embarrassingly, staring at beautiful adults – both men and women – in pure admiration of their beauty. It has happened a few times with babies, but they are very few and far between.)
On the other hand, small, furry creatures (with the possible exception of rodents) make me melt and start doing and saying the weirdest things. I even love big, furry creatures, too, especially big cats, although they usually need some serious treatment for halitosis. But aren’t they just simply gorgeous to look at?
Well I’m glad there are some women out there not desperate to pop one or more out! Around where I live it seems they are all desperate to join the “Pramland” fraternity. Maybe it is like a fashion craze; my best friends all have designer handbags so I need one to match!
As for cute animals, check out this cute kitten:
(youtube suprised kitty original)
Ta
I am with all of you 100%…..and I don’t fancy Brad Pitt either
I find it annoying when friends show you baby pictures of their niece, nephew, etc. and ask you, “Isn’t he/she adorable?” I always have to let out a fake “awww….he/she is so cute.” I don’t really like children, and don’t find all babies to be cute. I’m not very maternal when it comes to babies, but when it comes to cute animals, I can’t help but get gooey over them.
It seems that many men out there are 100% sure about wanting to have kids, even if they are still in their bachelor phase. I’m not saying that I do NOT want to have kids one day, but my clock isn’t ticking at all today. Maybe one day my clock will start ticking, but right now I can’t promise any guy that I absolutely want to have kids. Most female friends of mine want to have kids so they are rushing to find “the one” before they get too old to have kids. At almost 30 years old, it seems that I’m a minority when it comes to wanting to settling down, having kids. I think I’m still young, but find that I have nothing in common with people my age.
And for some reason….those Anne Geddes photos really creep me out! It almost seems kind of wrong.
I forgot to mention Brad Pitt – not my style, either. Not even George Clooney. Never has been. I’ve never been able to understand what all the fuss is about. I always thought that it was because I’m not American. While I’m on the subject, Sean Connery never did a thing for me – especially as James Bond. However, I admire him as an actor in the things that he has done in his later years. The same can be said of George Clooney. But Brad Pitt has yet to impress me as an actor.
Oh maybe this is the place I can find that woman of my dreams who doesn’t want to become a baby factory!
Yay! I am not alone in this
An interesting angle is the ‘selfishness’ argument – I’m going to do a post on that soon.
@Laur – Sometimes I tell people I’m not going to have kids to make up for people who have more than 2. I also wonder why more people don’t adopt – there are so many children who exist already who need love.
I agree re Sean Connery too.
@Skygurl – Hear hear! Wouldn’t it be so much more fun if we could honestly say what we’re really thinking?
@Reeny – I never say I’ll NEVER have kids – who knows what’s around the corner, but the point is there’s no RUSH, is there?
@Marilyn – you make me laugh, as always
@Mark – Baby factory – ugh! Stick around here – there are lots of us to whom that’s a very unattractive idea!
i must have been born with out the babies arfe cute gene as well……i think they are so ugly! and when i tell other women this the most common response is…”oh. honey you will think they are cute when you have one” but what if i don’t, its not like you can send it back!
I’m exactly the same, I think babies are ugly on the whole and the idea of pregnancy to me isn’t like a miracle at all, it kind of seems like having a parasite if I’m honest.
Just yesterday I was sat in a sexual health clinic (to get the contraceptive pill) and the walls were plastered with photos of babies and pregnant women. It bloody terrified me. the pain, the discomfort, the sleepless nights, the work. NO THANKS.
You’re certainly not alone.
Personally, as a 27 year old female I have never, ever found human babies the least bit desirable, attractive or cute. And I really never expect to.
For me, I don’t think it’s anything to do with sleepless nights or the harrowing, shrieking noise. I think if you love someone or something none of that matters. As horrible and anti-social as it may sound, I tend to think of babies as just another person, like you might see in the high street, waiting to become just another vain, arrogant, self-centred, greedy, weak, intolerant, sadistic human being.
They are a bit ugly and I’m not sure where or how people see the cuteness. Show me a fox cub or a little dormouse or even a little frog or newly-hatched gecko with their little spread-out toes and I see adorable cuteness. But not babies.
And yes. Those Anne Geddes photographs are very, very creepy.
love baby animals just want to squeeze them, but side from my my own child I do not have a maternal or nurturing bone in my body, so no I do not think babies are at all cute. (infact all new borns lok the same to me)
OK, I am laughing because here at work today EVERYONE is cooing over a baby, so I hid and googled “why don’t I think babies are cute?” and I got this blog!! So I am with you there. I just don’t get it. I’m an almost 37-year-old heterosexual female and seeing a baby human does absolutely nothing for me. Now, I could scoop up cute little kittens all day long, however. Also, Brad Pitt, I don’t see what the big deal is either LOL.
I thought I was the only person that thought babies didn’t look cute. Every time a person wants to show me a picture of one or something, I think to myself oh my gosh I just don’t see it! Let’s just go along and make fake ‘awww’ noises so I’m not thought of as weird. One time I was actually accused of hating babies for this very reason. It confuses me as to why most adult humans find babies cute, and it also ticks me off how people like myself are seen as people that have it out for them of something.
Omg amen!!!!! Kids r not cute!!!!! Stuck here now with one……. Is it a requirement to have one?
Hope you survived! No, it’s definitely not compulsory!