I’ve been thinking recently that I am underhugged. I really don’t get as many hugs as a girl needs. And as one who loves a good hug, my hug-deprivation is even more noticeable at the moment.
Sure, I hug my family and friends whenever I see them, and that’s nice. But it’s not the kind of hug I mean. I don’t mean cuddling either (I’m also under-cuddled but that’s a whole other thing 
) – as in the type of hugs that lead to sex. View full article »
According to research by OKCupid, if a guy wants to attract attention on an online dating site, he should have a mysterious, unsmiling look on his face and preferably be holding an animal. Apparently depicting himself in a travel context will garner him the least responses.
Women should look flirtily (is that a word?!) into the camera, be outdoors and show a hint of cleavage.
Hmm. My online dating pic shows me grinning broadly, indoors, with no cleavage on show. I should switch it for a week and see what happens. Interestingly, I am much more likely to initiate contact with a guy who has a travel photo – to me, that’s interesting and a conversation opener.
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If you decide to pop your profile on an internet dating site, you’d think the logical thing would be to include an attractive photo of yourself, wouldn’t you? It’s amazing how many guys get deleted from my matches because their photos turn me off. (Yes, I am ruthless!) I’m not referring to discarding the ugly people, but those with the following pics:
So guys, if you’re reading this, here are my tips for a dating profile picture that will at least get me clicking through to read more about you:
OK, I’m off to check my matches…
Last night I watched the movie ‘The Jane Austen Book Club’. I really related to one of the characters in it: Jocelyn. She’s perpetually single and likes being alone, lives quite far out of town, is devoted to her dogs who she breeds.
The male protagonist in the film falls for her and in one memorable line, after she’s brushed him off again, he says something along the lines of ‘You just want to be obeyed. That’s why you have dogs.’ LOL!
OK, so I have cats and am not nearly as stunning as Maria Bello, who plays Jocelyn, but it did make me wonder if my own need for being in control (and being ‘obeyed’) gets in the way of potential relationships.
Don’t you love it when a movie makes you think?
A friend met a guy a few months ago and is utterly smitten. It’s wonderful. I am (honestly) really happy for her as she is am amazing person and totally deserves to find her equally-amazing soulmate.
But she is annoying the hell out of me. She is soooo loved up that everything that comes out of her mouth is her philosophical takes on the beauty of love. *vomit* She spends every minute possible with him (yes, I’ve seen her a lot less) which is very sweet but wow, that sort of relationship would have me running for the hills.
I feel like such a bad person. I am happy for her (really!) but I do wish she’d tone it down a bit. I know I’m probably annoyed because I’m still single (the only one in our group now) and would love to find my ‘other half’ and experience the euphoria my friend is feeling at the moment (with the appropriate relationship space that I need!). And I know that raining on her parade is (a) mean-spirited and (b) not who I am. So I will continue to fix a smile on my face when I see her and think happy thoughts that one day, I’ll be the one nauseating everyone else with my new-found love.
“You need to find someone who will love you in the same way that you love others.”
These words came in an email from a friend of mine last week, who is over the moon at finding her ‘Mr Right’ recently.
It got me thinking: How loving am I? How do I show love for others? Am I lovable?
If it’s true that you get what you give, I think I need to be working on all three of these.
This post is dedicated to a friend of mine, JC, who lost her father this week.
JC married an old friend of mine, PC, in October – after a whirlwind romance. They met last December, were engaged by April, and their wedding was one of the most beautiful and moving I’ve been to. I cannot imagine two people better suited to each other – anyone who doesn’t believe in soulmates just has to spend 10 minutes with these two to be converted. When I told JC that she gives me hope that my soul mate is out there still, she said, ‘Your life can change in a minute. That’s all it takes.’
The love and goodwill at their reception was palpable. Judging by the throng of women in the ladies’ room after the speeches, touching up their mascara, I wasn’t the only person who was moved deeply by the love that this newly-wed couple share.
Sadly, JC’s life changed again in just a minute this week. I had a text message from PC yesterday telling me that his father-in-law had been shot and killed in an attempted car-jacking in his driveway on Wednesday night. My heart breaks for JC, who is very close to her family and only a few weeks ago was being walked up the aisle by her proud Dad. I am so extremely angry at the senseless, pointless act of violence that has thrust her and her family into shock, despair and deep sadness. With the holidays around the corner, it is going to be a dark time for them. I am so glad that JC has PC, who I know will be an immense source of love and support to both his wife and his new family.
What can you say in that situation? How can you help? All I can do is bombard them with love, hugs and prayers.
JC, may your Dad rest in peace and may you and your family find some sort of calm and acceptance in time.
