You might have picked up that I’m not a fan of baby showers. I generally come up with an excuse not to attend them because as a single woman with no biological clock, I find them excruciatingly boring. Particularly the 1-2 hours that’s taken up with The Opening of The Presents.
A good, long-standing friend is having her first baby in December and as her only bridesmaid, it’s kind of naturally fallen onto me to organise her baby shower. Eeek. I love her to bits and want her to have a wonderful shower so am having to put my personal feelings aside. She likes to know what’s happening so I’ve kept her in the loop about the format of the shower, etc.and I’m making an effort to do some nice things for it.
Because I find the present opening so painful (she’s commented on it too in the past) I suggested we just ask the guests to leave gifts on a table somewhere, for her to open later with her husband. She’d prefer to open them there and then though – but has promised to do it quickly 🙂 It’s her shower, so we’ll do it the way she wants it.
It just got me thinking though… I don’t think I’d open gifts at my own shower. Does anyone else think that opening gifts at a shower and oohing and aahing over them isn’t a bit:
- Competitive? ( i.e. is my gift nicer than yours…)
- Boring? (Although I must admit the child-free people at this shower will be in a distinct minority so maybe people will be genuinely interested in babygros, breast pumps and nappies…)
If people don’t open their gifts and parade them in front of everyone at birthday parties and weddings, why is this done at bridal and baby showers? I genuinely would like to know, as I feel like I must be missing something.
I just had a huge argument with my mother about this (usually we get on exceptionally well) – she says my ideas are far too fixed and I need to realise that my opinion isn’t the only one. She said some other stuff too that was really hurtful but that’s another issue. I just hate that this baby shower business triggered it. I know that I have a one-sided view – that’s why I’m genuinely trying to understand what other people think about this.
Can anyone shed some light please?!