I think perhaps I am. OK, not generally, but when it comes to internet dating. I’ve said on my profile that it’s ‘decidedly important’ that the guys I’m looking for are no more than 2 years younger than me, and no more than 6 years older.
Why those ranges? Well, my little brother is three years younger and it’s just a bit weird for me to think of dating someone his age. This despite the fact that I have several friends who are easily 3-10 years younger than me.
As for older, well, I just think it starts getting a bit weird when a guy is more than 6 years older than I am. Particularly when they are nearing – or over 50. That’s ‘dad’ territory (although my own Dad is in his late 60s!).
So the last few weeks, I’ve had a bunch of emails through on the dating site. Some plain boring (‘can we chat’ – erm, no) and some plain weird (there was one which was way off colour – the dude did have the cojones to mail an apology a few days later) but most are from guys between 49 and 55.
So now my profile has my stipulated age range as ‘non-negotiable’. I really would like to meet guys around my age. I’m not over the hill yet – I’d like a guy who isn’t. So yes, perhaps I AM ageist after all, but only when it comes to dating.
Am I cutting myself off from a potential Michael Douglas/Catherine Zeta Jones or Demi/Ashton type perfect relationship? Maybe, but it’s what I’m comfortable with.
How far out of your own age range will you go?