Over the last few weeks, I’ve had this said to me several times. People who are really close to me, who love me loads, telling me (very well-meaningly) that they so wish I’d find someone wonderful to spend my life with. That I should ‘stop delaying and make an effort now’ to find someone who will ‘look after’ me as I get older (!). Or more flatteringly, that I am ‘so wasted as single’ – implying I’m a great catch.
How do you respond to something like that? Just smile and wave? Explain that finding someone fantastic isn’t exactly that easy? And while yes, finding a soulmate would be great, it’s not like I can go and buy one at a store. And what should I do in the meantime? Sit around waiting, feeling sorry for myself?
I actually like being single. Maybe I won’t want to be single forever, and yes, I am open to a relationship. But I don’t want to settle for anything less than I deserve. For someone who will bring out the best in me, and me in him.