Pinterest makes me want to punch my laptop

OK so perhaps I do have a secret board on Pinterest that may or may not include beautiful images of sparkly rings and gorgeous (not white) dresses.

The wedding section on Pinterest is pretty scary. It’s a flurry of hippy or hipster chic – mason jars, baby’s breath, wooden ampersands and ombre wedding cakes abound. THE PRESSURE to produce a perfect wedding must be ridiculous for the people who pin this stuff so avidly. And WTF is a sand ceremony?!

They can have it all, and sure, it’s all very pretty. But the one thing that makes me want to throw up – or throw things – is all the cutesy ‘Mrs’ paraphernalia. Necklaces that say ‘Mrs’. Scatter cushions. T-shirts (“cute for honeymoon!!!”).  SHOWER CURTAINS. Seriously?

This one is the worst:

He Stole My Heart So I'm Stealing His Last Name - Photo by Beautiful Mess Photography, LLC - Art by Sarah Doriani

I realise that some women can’t wait to take their husband’s names. I just don’t understand why. What’s wrong with their own names? Taking your husband’s name feels to me like you’re becoming his property. I love my last name and it has defined me for decades. Changing it would feel very, very weird. It’s part of me and I’d like to keep it.

And why in this day and age are all males referred to as Mr, but women are still either Miss or Mrs? I have been trying for years for my bank to change my title from Miss to Ms and it’s yet to happen. Why do women’s titles still indicate their marital status, while men’s don’t? It drives me crazy. I will remain Ms Singlethirtysomething all my life, regardless of whether I am single, married, divorced or whatever.

Rant over!

 

3 thoughts on “Pinterest makes me want to punch my laptop

  1. I found you while searching for a thirtysomething blogger forum (really pathetic, I know), but I’m all the more pleased that you’re single and don’t want kids. This post in particular hit home with me because of all of my newly-married friends changing their last names. My best friend actually hated her perfectly fine last name and couldn’t wait to get rid of it, and I wanted to cry for her. And can you imagine living in a home with a woman who decorates it with “Mrs.” pillows?

  2. “Mrs” pillows. Aaargh. Love your blog BTW… I think we may have been separated at birth.

  3. Same as Unapologetically Mundane, I found this blog while searching for a 30-something blog. I felt compelled to leave a message here though because this tradition drives me absolutely nuts as well – I just don’t understand it. It’s like giving away a huge piece of your identity, and for what? I mean really, it’s not like you’d cease to be married if you kept your surname, lol. While I can understand a kid taking on a parents surname because of the DNA link (that is, either parents surname and not just the Dad’s, or maybe even a double barrel if it fits) I really don’t think there’s any reason for a bride to do it. I, for one, don’t see any practical actual gain to it (just lots of hassle). It’s utter madness, especially when a woman feels she has to do it solely out of some stale tradition. And to think of all the paperwork that will require re jigging too…. Ugh. No thanks, it’s definitely not for me. I’ll be continuing on my family name with great pride.

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